The Holidays Are Coming

December 2006
by Rebecca Rengo-Kocher
http://www.beyondchronicpain.com

We are fast approaching the holiday season. It's not too soon to begin preparing mentally, especially if you have chronic pain. We often fantasize about childhood holidays and want to recreate the same memories today for our families and ourselves. Those past memories are often not realistic. Did Mom bake dozens of fresh baked cookies, decorate the entire house and send cards to anyone she knew? It's not necessary to do all those things. If you want to decorate cookies, just buy the frozen dough and canned icing. If you want to, you can shake on some sprinkles. It's really okay to not have cookies. Many people are watching their weight and don't need the extra calories. No one will notice. I remember as a child an aunt I had with chronic pain. She put her artificial tree away fully decorated each year. When the holidays came, she only had someone carry it to the living room and she was ready. Some years, I skip sending out holiday cards. Other years, I only send a few. Be prepared to turn down parties and other holiday invitations if you're not up to attending. It's important to know what your limits are and pace yourself, especially during the holiday season. Gift buying can be stressful. Money is the number one favorite gift and I give it frequently. It doesn't have to be a lot, it's the thought that counts. Step back and enjoy the holidays. Don't put any expectations on yourself. It's a busy time of year. Continue to take good care of yourself and spend time on what really matters, your health.

© 2006 Rebecca Rengo-Kocher. All rights reserved.
Please forward this newsletter to anyone who can benefit from these ideas. A life with chronic pain can be lived well and enjoyed